What a month!

We’ve been working hard to prepare an outreach campaign to coincide with the broadcast of the film on Public Television Stations, beginning in November of 2010. The film’s website is going live on October 5th, with all kinds of new tools, for everything from hosting a screening to how to find when the film is playing in your neck of the woods, to maps which will help audience members learn about their state and find out what simple things they can do to help in this effort.

I headed with my husband Jon to Wisconsin mid-month, for a brief break in the film outreach, to begin work on a new project which has been in the works for a few months. This new short film (working title: “The Value of a Single Life”) is an examination of two men who both fought for the Wisconsin 6th in the Civil War. One lived and one died, and the impact of their destinies on their families is a testament to the value of fathers, a value that affects generations. I was able to watch my nephew, Reed, one of the lead cheerleaders for the University of Wisconsin, toss teammates in the air and somersault in celebration as the Badgers beat the ASU Sun Devils.

Jon then headed to South Dakota (where he went down 5,000 feet underground, to see a new lab being built by the National Science Foundation), while I went to Minnesota for the first community screening of the PBS version of “ADOPTED: for the life of me”. Over 70 people showed up for the screening – a fantastic turnout, and hopefully a portend of screenings to come. Many thanks to Mary Mason and her wonderful team of Minnesota colleagues for a memorable evening.

Then I was off to spend a few very special and rare days with my birth family. I got to attend a high school reunion with my brothers and sisters (my brother Mike being the main organizer), spend an afternoon with my very special nephew Lucas, hang with my brother Jim, hug my birthmom Lee and tease her mercilessly (my goal in life), and meet my sister Sue’s mastiffs Lily and Chloe (who are taller than me…)

Then it was off to Chicago to spend three incredible and exhausting days with Sara Feigenholtz, the Illinois State Representative who spent the past fourteen years pushing an adoptee access to information bill through the state legislature. With passage of the bill in May, Illinois became the 10th state to provide access to its citizens. Sara, and her intrepid staffers Stephen and TIffany, whisked me and fellow filmmaker Jerry Peck, to countless interviews, feeding us only sporadically, but introducing us to some extraordinary legislative colleagues, from Senator Mike Madigan to Senator A.J. Wilhelmi, who graciously found time to meet with us during a tense elective season. I arrived back home with some extraordinary interviews in my film bag. Can’t wait to get into the editing room!

August began with Annette Baran’s incredible memorial service in Santa Monica. With many of Annette’s dearest friends traveling across the country to attend, from Joyce Maguire Pavao to Martha Hulbert, as many Californians traveling hundreds of miles, from Sharon Roszia to Karen Vedder to Nancy Verrier and Sarah Burns, those of us from the adoption reform movement at the service had an opportunity to know Annette from new perspectives, through the eyes of her family and friends. Montages of Annette’s life and short video clips illuminated the life of this irreplaceable advocate for openness in adoption. It was fascinating (and hard!) to watch a video of Annette on “60 Minutes” back in 1975. She was spot on with her comments to Morley Safer – yet the exact same discussion could have taken place today, making many of us feel like we hadn’t moved the ball down the field very far in the 35 years since that taping – until we reflected on what Annette accomplished in her lifetime. 85% of adoptions are open today – and Annette was one of those who led the parade. While we continue to fight on behalf of an increasingly aging population of adopted citizens who seek to the know the beginning of their life story, we can celebrate the battles won in recent years. Annette’s pioneering efforts led the way for so many of us. We will miss her every day – and work hard to continue the work she began.

The day I returned from California, I received word that “For the Life of Me” will be screened on PBS in November! At the suggestion of my friend Peter Daulton, who has made the terrific short films “Flowers From the Heartland” and “Eyes Wide Open”, I submitted the film to NETA, which supplies programming to PBS. The film was selected and we’re now gearing up for the broadcasts with an outreach campaign. Hopefully, we’ll be up and running by November 1st, when the broadcasts begin. There’s much to do – and everyone interested in having a broader debate across the country about adoptee access to records, is welcome to find ways to utilize the film as a tool to spark a discussion and hopefully engage new people to take action!

On July 11th, 2010, all of us in the adoption reform movement lost one of the most significant pioneers in our history. Annette Baran is one of a handful of individuals who changed the way our society would look at adoption. As a social worker, for a quarter century, in her own words she bought the necessity for sealed records in adoption “hook, line, and sinker.” But the day that a young adult adoptee came into her office, wanting her help in connecting with his birthparents, Annette not only listened – she took action. Her groundbreaking study with colleague Reuben Pannor, on the impact of secrecy in adoption, and the subsequent publishing of their findings in “The Adoption Triangle”, Annette led the way. She was tiny in stature, but a giant among us. She mentored many of us, was a friend to all, and a wise sage who became the ‘go to’ person about adoption issues, from Oprah to 60 Minutes to McNeil and Lehrer, Annette helped educate millions of people. The work she began is not yet done, and the baton she carried must be borne by many. She asked us questions, played matchmaker in many of the friendships we all share, and was I believe, to her dying day, pushing us all to seek the better angels she spent the second half of her life pursuing. Any reform that is achieved, past, present or future, will have in many ways, been sparked by Annette. She will be missed. Forever…

June was a whirlwind, climaxing in the New Jersey International Film Festival, where the film received honorable mention in the best documentary category, and an emotional response from the attending audience. The film was attended by both Dave Kiley and Joe DeGironimo, the primary subjects in “For the Life of Me”. The dinner held before the screening was the first moment the two men met – it was a great affair, and it was wonderful how many members of NJ-CARE made it to Rutgers for the film’s NJ premiere.
The film has its very origins in the state of New Jersey, where the first rolls of tape were shot in 2005 with the intention of creating a 45 second PSA. Thanks to Pam Hasegawa’s encouragement, and the kindness and support of many other people, the film grew into a feature. Screening it in New Jersey was like bringing it back home.
With New Jersey on the cusp of passage of adoptee access legislation through both houses – a historical moment – I was also able to film one of the final hearings of S799 as it passed through the Assembly Health committee, and on to the next stage, the entire Assembly, a vote that will take place this fall. If you haven’t weighed in yet with a letter to Governor Christie regarding the bill, please take a moment to visit www.nj-care.org and find out ways you can help. There continues to be a lot of misinformation out there – the folks at NJ-CARE deserve a standing ovation for their tenacity and patience…

I’ve been on the road for six weeks, and had a good time, despite swine flu and a propensity to lose things (like my boom pole, my phone, my flash drive, my mind). The best thing of all was that my youngest son, Jonathon, graduated from Penn (yippee!) and so there was much partying and celebrating. Yahoo!

I began work on a new film while on the road, spending four days at the National Archives (the motion picture division) in Maryland, outside DC, making some new friends among the researchers, and seeking out footage that’s in the public domain. Project to be announced!

I spent a couple days in New Jersey, hosted by the always hospitable Mary and Bill Mild, while helping Pam Hasegawa man the New Jersey booth at the state capitol in advance of legislative hearings taking place in June. I stand in awe of the tenacity of the NJ folks – they are a hardy bunch who know that while it can take a long time to help educate people about the issue of adoptee access, thirty years is long enough…

The film then screened in Rochester, New York during a day long training session at the Hillside Adoption Agency. Cudos to Lisa Maynard, who kept me on my feet that day (the flu was hitting hard) and who also made sure I had a nice safe place to stay.

I moved onto Massachusetts and continued working through our family member Jomo’s graduation from Brown, finally returning to Texas the beginning of June.

Okay. This has been a long time coming.

April was a great month, starting off with turning 55 (born in ’55, so it seems like a special year somehow). Mid month, I headed out to Connecticut for the Kent Film Festival. I was blown away by the fact that Larry Newman, my sponsor, and Pam Hasegawa, one of the people who started this all, drove all the way up from New Jersey for the screening, as did Cindy Boynton Wolfe, who not only came but so did her son. Bravo! And equally exciting was that Dave Kiley, the star of the film, was able to see it with an audience for the first time. It’s different, watching it on a big screen with a lot of other people. He cried. Lots of people cried. And then the film won the “Sleeping Giant Award for Best Documentary”. And we all cried somemore. And laughed and drank wine. Kent was a lovely town with lovely people, especially my host, Marcia, and her many friends, who wined and dined me and got me completely hooked on electronic Scrabble. This is why we go to film festivals…

Following Kent was activity down at the state capitol in Rhode Island where legislation is pending regarding access to records. Paul Schibbelhute, of New Hampshire fame (he led the successful legislative effort there), invited me down to Providence for the day, and so we got ourselves on t.v. and in the newspaper, and tried to help ‘push the tree over’ in RI. Every state is different – and most states are struggling with budget issues. Rhode Island doesn’t look like its going to pass this year – but its not because folks aren’t trying hard…

On to MIT where one of the best conferences I’ve ever attended took place. Run by academics like Marianne Novy of Pitt, “Adoption: Secret Histories, Public Policies”. I had the distinct pleasure of meeting several of my idols face to face, from Susan Ito to Ann Fessler. “For the Life of Me” screened again – and Dave Kiley drove across the state to attend. It meant a great deal to have him see both the festival screening and the conference screening. For those who watch the film, having one of the main subjects in attendance allows them an opportunity to explore in more depth the issues his story raises. We all had a great time – and one learns so much from being able to hear the deep thoughts of those who’ve spent the majority of their lives pondering post adoption issues.

April rocked!

3/26/2010

The feature premiered to a FANTASTIC audience tonight at the Cleveland International Film Festival. It was thrilling to be there, and to have had such support from the staff at CIFF, at Adoption Network Cleveland, and from individuals like Betsie Norris who put me up for five nights, CIFF sponsors Laura and Chris Blake, and my festival sponsor Elise Lewis who drove with two crazy Louisiana women all the way from Washington, DC to attend.

The evening had an interesting beginning, however. A couple of us spoke, then the lights dimmed, a trailer for the festival ran, and then… nothing. The theater was dark. After a minute, everyone began fidgeting. A person from the festival with a walkie talkie whispered to me that they were having trouble with a projector in a different screening that it might be a couple more minutes. So I asked the audience who I couldn’t see because it was pitch black, “Are you enjoying the film yet?” People chuckled and we waited a bit more. Lights still out. A minute later, I said, “I particular like this part here.” A half minute goes by. “I can tell many of you are finding this scene highly emotional.”

I walk from the back of the theater toward the front, hoping that everyone isn’t drifting off to sleep. “Well, I hope you enjoyed the film and I want to thank you all for coming. Does anyone have any questions?”

From the center of the theater comes, “What kind of camera did you use?”

“A Panasonic DVX100B – with the lens cap on.”

Back row left, “Was it hard to edit?”

“This was probably easier than any other film I’ve edited.”

The room is pitch black. I can’t see any faces, but we are laughing together in the dark. For the Life of Me has become a comedy.

A person in an aisle seat. “What’s your next project going to be?”

“I was thinking of something a bit… lighter.”

Finally, the Silver Tandem Production logo filled the screen and For the Life of Me was rolling. And for the first time ever I got an ovation at the beginning of a film.
And, fortunately, there was an ovation at the end of the film too, and a wonderful Q&A with the audience, whose faces I could finally see. It was a great night, one I’ll always remember.

A second screening occurs tomorrow morning. I’m kind of hoping the lights go out at the beginning and we have five minutes of darkness again to get to know each other. It was a magic way in which to launch the feature film!

To see a clip from NBC channel 3 news go to http://www.wkyc.com/news/local/news_article.aspx?storyid=133166&catid=3

Screening For the Life of Me in Sacramento at the American Adoption Congress conference was awesome – topped only perhaps by getting to dance with a cardboard cutout of FTLOM sponsor Elise Lewis who was unable to attend. Elise – we learned you are not a wallflower…

There are many new faces at AAC and it energizes me to meet them. The next generation of adoption reformers has arrived and they have much to teach us. Looking forward to AAC’s national gathering next year in Orlando.

The conference was made all the more special by a screening of Sin By Silence followed by a poignant workshop talk by adoptee and birthparent Brenda Clubine. Its impossible to capture the film’s impact in a couple sentences. Check out its website. Its in the ‘links’ section below.

But it was the time spent with friends from New Jersey to Kansas to to Canada to California that made this a journey extraordinaire. Being able to share For the Life of Me with my own tribe – nothing beats that…

So I’m on to Cleveland, for the world premiere of the feature film. The short version has screened before, but the full feature has never been seen in public. Cleveland – home of the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame – quite simply… rocks. I’ve seen some great films, caught up with great friends, and simply can’t wait until Friday, March 26th at 7:30 p.m…

The Sedona International Film Festival… rocks! For the Life of Me screened twice, to sold out theaters and appreciative audiences. Other attendees included celebs from Michael Moore to Tim Daly to Jane Seymour, and the festival organizers feted us all with galas and opportunities to link up with other filmmakers from across the country. Some highlights included:

an audience member following me out to the parking lot after my screening, and crying in my arms as he told me his own story…

Jerry Stiller’s tale about the effect the infamous Vortex had upon him…

watching J.J. Kelley accept the audience award for his doc – bravo!

eating Milk Duds during screenings… often…

watching the winter Olympics every night back at the hotel – with a fire in the fireplace…

trying to get that darn “Up with People” song out of my mind after watching “Smile Til it Hurts”…
and getting to meet William Storey from the film – elegant insights…

and the entire SIFF staff. Very special folks…

FTLOM (short version) receives SMOGDANCE FILM FESTIVAL Audience Award for Best Picture!

The short version of For the Life of Me – a 29 minute cut of the feature film focusing solely on the story of Dave Kiley – premiered at the 12th annual Smogdance Film Festival (which runs concurrent with Sundance) on January 24th. The film garnered rave reviews and a surprise audience award. With the beautiful and compelling films in the open category, and filmmakers from as far away as Iran in attendance, it was an unexpected (but welcome!) honor. Perhaps an even greater reward for me was to sit in the Laemmle Theater for the two screenings and witness the audience reactions to Dave’s story. Audible weeping can be as profound as a standing ovation…

A deep thanks to Elise Lewis (and her husband and family) for their support of this festival and others!

In addition, the film had recent screenings on three new continents: Antarctica, South America, and Africa. Top this off with the news at the end of the month that For the Life of Me has been selected by the Women’s International Film Festival in Miami, and January was a stellar month!